Hot chocolate… Hot wax…

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Speaking of using temperature changes to excite your partner sexually, heat cannot stay unmentioned. I can imagine hundreds of scenarios when various hot, melted food products like chocolate or caramel get licked of the skin of your lover. And leaving hot food aside, hot wax is also exciting. I remember sticking my fingers into melted candles just to enjoy the feel of wax on my skin even though those situations I did it in were highly unerotic. So I can easily imagine how powerful impact it can have while used for sexual purposes even though I’ve never tried it myself yet.

However, with both of the above certain precautions are necessary. After all we want to have fun and not end up at emergency with a burned partner. So checking if the temperature is not too high is really crucial (about 50 degrees Centigrade).  Cheap soft white candles tend to be the lowest melt temperature wax, because of the lack of additives, so buying fancy ones may not be the best idea. Personally I’d be also careful about dripping hot wax directly on the delicate skin on women’s clits or assholes.  Perhaps warm chocolate which you could later lick off would be much better.

One more thing – hair. Sure a lot of women use hot wax to depilate, they even pay for it,  it’s still not the most pleasant sensation. We just suffer for beauty. So if your idea is to cause pleasure rather than pain make sure you have some baby oil to remove it easily.

And speaking of hot wax and candles – as you melt wax with fire, have something handy that you can use to extinguish the flames if the situation gets out of control. You don’t want to burn your house, do you?  Getting rid of pets, especially cats, from the bedroom wouldn’t be a bad idea either. Felines are nosy and a burning candle can be just too much of a temptation for a kitty to resist.

And don’t forget to put off the flame once you’re finished playing with hot wax and want to start fucking.


BDSM … to do or not to do?

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Are you a 50 shades of Grey fan that is willing to follow the ‘guidelines’ set up in the book to the letter and let your sexual partner do whatever he may please with you? 

Be careful of what you ask for.

In your sexual fantasy, or in an erotic book like ours, your partner won’t sneeze without YOUR permission, so it’s actually YOU that is in control. It’s him that is there to please you as you’re obviously tied up and not fully able to to anything… Sounds nice… Doesn’t it? In such a sensual fantasy of yours, he is your sex slave, even if it seems the opposite, doing what you want. But stop, this is not a kinky fantasy, it’s reality.

He’s tied you up, he has a whip or crop in his hand and you may end up in bruises or worse if you don’t set up any precautions before your sexual encounter. Have you by any chance read Kushiel’s Dart by Jacqueline Carey? Phedre no Delauney is a young woman who was born with a scarlet mote in her left eye, nobody knows what it is unless a nobleman who purchases her recognizes who and what Phedre is and what the mote marks her for. She’s chosen to forever experience pleasure and pain as one… But even she, an anguisette, for whom pain signifies heavenly ecstasy, has to take precautions to prevent her patrons from going too far. Make sure to arrange a signale with with your sexual partner that will tell him he has got carried away. A special code word that will tell him to stop whatever that you no longer find pleasurable.

BDSM is for two (or more) people as long as everybody involved finds it pleasurable.