Porn sex vs sex in reality

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I’ve recently come across this video:

While I basically agree with most of the points I still can’t say they are 100% truth, after all, stats is usually called a big fucking lie. They sure didn’t interview enough people to get really trustworthy data. Another thing is that depending on the result you want to get, you can manipulate the answers as much as you want.

So to begin with, the penis size. I can’t claim to have seen all the porn available in the net, but the dicks shown in the ones I have seen vary. They sure are not 9 inches, some are really smaller. The same in reality. Sure I’ve seen guys who had huge cocks which almost made me worried 😉 , some were smaller, well, I probably was lucky not to encounter owners of the really small ones.

Point no 2 – hairless intimate areas and their general look. Well, considering the fact that it’s not really so easy to get rid of hair from your whole pussy and ass area (I imagine, the same is true for men), then indeed, most of people in reality have quite furry intimates. One more thing not mentioned in the video, is that most porn actresses have their assholes bleached, there are special creams for that. That’s why they appear to be so pale. In reality, the skin just around the anus is quite dark.

Another point – the amount of foreplay. Well, if you are aware, it’s just a film where the actress got some lubricant in her pussy and the male acts got fluffed for the action, then it’s ok. Normally, especially we, women, need some pre attention.

The next important point mentioned – the time of the intercourse, which is quite short in a majority of male population.  Well, guys, if you’re so lazy as not to take some advice and learn how to prolong the pleasure, then sure, go on. Just don’t complain later on if your ladies are not really interested in sex. You see, for most of us these 3 minutes is not enough.

Why don’t 71% of women have orgasm due to penetration? The answers can be many – not enough arousal, worry at work, she may not be in the mood, or you may not be doing a good enough job and finishing too early… Several other reasons are also possible…

As for the other points mentioned in the video, such as lesbian sex, anal, facials or swallowing as well as threesomes or squirting – the sexual revolution still hasn’t taken over the minds of all the women. We are still taught that these things are dirty and that we should be ashamed to want to do them or to actually do them. Lack of knowledge is essential too, there was a time when I squirted regularly while masturbating. I was still a teenager who was discovering what her body could do at that time. But who knew about squirting then? I thought I was peeing and I learned to supress it. Now I’m learning to squirt again. And I don’t think I was and am the the only one. This must have happened to a lot of us.

It will take much more time to get rid of these preconceptions that certain things in sex are bad.

As for light bondage and the percentage mentioned in the video… Well, I think 50 Shades of Grey have taken care of this…

Internet and porn

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Have you ever wondered why erotica and porn have become so popular recently? Titles like 50 Shades of Grey sold in an astonishing amount of copies (Goddess, give us even 1/1000 of this success), and this particular book is not even the top kink as I’ve been told. There are tons that are more perverse, exploring various taboos like incest, sodomy, just to name a few.
The answer is – it’s the internet and the invention of an ebook, Kindle of whatever other format of it.
Imagine back, what it was like 15-20 years ago. You wanted to read some smut but… Well, there was this little  problem of buying it in a brick and mortar shop. If the shop employee was male and you were a woman, he could think you’re an easy catch if you wanted to buy and read porn. And even if you happened to buy from some catalog and have the books mailed to you, there was still a problem of reading. You could only indulge in the sexy contents in the privacy of your home. No reading on a bus or train while commuting. The book cover would give you away and you probably didn’t want to see scorn or disgust in the eyes of fellow passengers. Now, with your Kindle, or any other ebook reader, you’re safe. You can read whatever you want and wherever you want.
This is why the sale of erotica is booming.

But… There’s just one little problem. Amazon is not making it easy for us, erotica writers. You won’t find erotica books if you search ‘All departments’ in Amazon. You have to specify, books or Kindle store. It’s the case with our title as well. Smashwords, generally a more friendly towards indies such as us, also makes it difficult to find erotica. Actually, you won’t find it, if you go to the page and type any title of an erotic book. If you do, it will say: “The adult filter is active; content marked as adults-only by the author is not listed.”  Well, unless you have a direct link to it.

So even though they earn a ton of money on sex, erotica and simple porn, they still try make this access hard. Of course, everything to protect the underage and those prudish enough who don’t want to see and don’t even want to acknowledge it’s there.

You get similar approach on Tumblr recently – all adult blogs have been excluded from the search engines there, as you can imagine the users are protesting fiercely, as now you can only find these blogs if you have a direct link. Facebook is also making our lives hard – everyday I wake up dreading to log in and have a look. Is our book’s fan page still there or has it already been deleted, like many other erotica and bdsm related ones.

Looks like somebody really doesn’t like sex and also has false preconceptions as far as bdsm is concerned.

Where will this all lead and how will this situation evolve? Nobody can say, but I hope all those Facebook and Tumblr SEOs will come back to their senses and let adults have their safe, sane and consensual fun.

Having written the above I want to remind you that our book, Hekate’s Passage is available all the time from Smashwords, Amazon, Kobo and Barnes and Noble. Check it out.

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Being a male porn star…

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I suppose many of you, gentelmen, wouldn’t mind a career in porn business. Being a male porn star is something a lot of men fancy. Imagine, screwing busty, hot chicks for a living. Seems a sheer paradise.

However, the latest release from a Japanese adult video industry, a documentary “The Other Side Of The Sex” shows a completely different picture. According to the veterans of Japanese porn, being in this business is hard work. Look at it from their perspective,  next to you there’s a chick you have to screw in front of a camera, camera operator and probably a few more people involved in the making of the video. The chick may not be as pretty and sexy as you would wish and she doesn’t excite you at all, but you still have to get it up. Moreover, you have to keep it up for the time necessary to shoot the video, you’re not allowed to come quickly. And as it often happens when filming takes places, some scenes may have to be repeated… etc etc… All this time you have to be hard and ready. And even fluffers may not help it if really takes long.

The other thing that some (lazy) men may consider a downfall of the job, is that you have to stay fit. No beer and chips, guys. Nudity in front of a camera obliges you to keep a nice shape. We don’t want to look at flabby, beer inflated abs.  You have to hit the gym often enough, guys, and work out to stay trim and appetizing. The same refers to all the men that are in “ladies’ entertainment business”, all those Chippendales type of men dancing bands. None of us, women, wants to look at  a obese dancing guy. Quite a lot of us have this at home, thank you very much, we don’t really want to pay for it.

There’s one more thing that actually made me laugh my ass off when I read it. Let me quote: “Actors need to have their fingernails trimmed and be aware of bad breath,” the director says.  Those poor male porn stars, they are forced to wash regularly, trim their fingernails and also trim or shave their pubic hair… Well… I know that some men really have big issues with hygiene but I didn’t really expect that matter to arise, I would expect that staying nice and clean is obvious in this job and not only there. It seems, that it’s not.