Good news for BDSM lovers

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I have some good news for all those that are into kinky sex. A few days ago Science published results of a study that concluded: “practitioners of “bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, sadism-masochism (BDSM) tend to be less neurotic, anxious, and paranoid, and more extroverted, conscientious, and open to new experiences than members of the “vanilla” general public.” The results of this study were published in the prestigious Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Andreas Wismeijer, coauthor of “Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners”, put out a call to members of the BDSM community asking for volunteers for a survey; 902 signed on. For his control group,  non-BDSMers, 434 subjects agreed to participate.

Without telling his respondents the aim of his study – he merely told them it was a study on “human behavior” – he then asked them to complete questionnaires designed to measure their personality, rejection sensitivity, relationship-attachment style, and overall sense of well-being. The conclusions of all these questionnaires were summed up in the first sentence of this post.

Sure, as the BDSM community is not homogeneous ’cause there are dominants, submissives, and those who enjoy playing both roles – “switches” in the leathery lingo, the results differed a bit depending on the person. According to Wismeijer and van Assen, dominants tended to score the highest in all measurements, submissives the lowest, and switches exactly where you’d assume: in the middle.

However, submissives can’t be treated as sniveling self-loathers. On the contrary. “Within the BDSM community,” Wismeijer told Live Science, “[submissives] were always perceived as the most vulnerable, but still, there was not one finding in which the submissives scored less favorable than the controls.”

Wismeijer admits that his study is not bulletproof. The self-selecting nature of the participants is one cause for caution, as is the fact that it’s possible the BDSM practitioners skewed their answers to make themselves look good. But the fact that none of the participants knew what the study was about lessens that latter concern.

Well, anyway it could be kind of summarized into an equation: whips + clips + cuffs + collars = wholesome ‘recreational leisure’ . Do this and it will get you mentally healthier than the vanilla bonkers are.

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A singing what?

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A singing pussy? What can it be? And how?

Sure, it can give out some sounds, especially after you gentelmen, pump some air inside it. This loud fart is hardly romantic, erotic, whatever, but it does happen after a hard pounding. But can a pussy actually sing? And how?

Well, this is what a project of  a young Swedish artist, Max Göran is about. He says about his project: “The first thought of the work was simply that it would be fun to do a video with singing pussies. Pussy has a much too narrow role in the world, where they can neither have personality or humor.

It turned out that the recording was significant for all who attended. Gender is at all so secret and shameful, and to relate with her pussy in this way meant that it actually became “better friends” with it. Everyone was terribly nervous prior to their pussy would be weird or disgusting, but it released quite late because everyone’s pussies looked weird / completely different / amazing.”

Well, this is the link to this kinky video. As all the posts from here also get posted on Facebook I’m only giving a link, don’t want any overzealous #@@#@ to report me.

Don’t watch at work. http://vimeo.com/59658050

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What are your favourite sex toys?

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First of all, sorry for not writing for almost a week, but I was away and even after coming back it was hard to catch up with things… I’ve only managed more or less now.

So, as the title of this note implies, what are your favourite erotic gadgets? Of course, apart from various restraints and immobilizing contraptions, you pervs 😉 I know you like them, in the book we’re fond of cuffs either, we also utilize leather restraints of various types, and naturally blindfolds. Being blindfolded and cuffed is…. mrrrr…. oh gods… so stimulating… Even thinking about it makes me all tingly and hot.

Our rockers can’t complain about their stamina, technique, length and girth and Yasmin, Eleyne and two other girls won’t even think of criticizing their heroes, but they do like using sex toys like dildos, vibrators and vibrating rings you put on your fingers. Gadgets for anal play, such as beads and various kinds of plugs are also often in use. I know that we probably exaggerate – in the ’80s, sex shops couldn’t possibly have been so well stocked as we describe it… 😉 We used all those online sex shops as sources of ‘inspiration’. But as everything we write about is a fantasy, we felt entitled to get a little carried away.

What are your preferences and likes in this field?

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Hot chocolate… Hot wax…

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Speaking of using temperature changes to excite your partner sexually, heat cannot stay unmentioned. I can imagine hundreds of scenarios when various hot, melted food products like chocolate or caramel get licked of the skin of your lover. And leaving hot food aside, hot wax is also exciting. I remember sticking my fingers into melted candles just to enjoy the feel of wax on my skin even though those situations I did it in were highly unerotic. So I can easily imagine how powerful impact it can have while used for sexual purposes even though I’ve never tried it myself yet.

However, with both of the above certain precautions are necessary. After all we want to have fun and not end up at emergency with a burned partner. So checking if the temperature is not too high is really crucial (about 50 degrees Centigrade).  Cheap soft white candles tend to be the lowest melt temperature wax, because of the lack of additives, so buying fancy ones may not be the best idea. Personally I’d be also careful about dripping hot wax directly on the delicate skin on women’s clits or assholes.  Perhaps warm chocolate which you could later lick off would be much better.

One more thing – hair. Sure a lot of women use hot wax to depilate, they even pay for it,  it’s still not the most pleasant sensation. We just suffer for beauty. So if your idea is to cause pleasure rather than pain make sure you have some baby oil to remove it easily.

And speaking of hot wax and candles – as you melt wax with fire, have something handy that you can use to extinguish the flames if the situation gets out of control. You don’t want to burn your house, do you?  Getting rid of pets, especially cats, from the bedroom wouldn’t be a bad idea either. Felines are nosy and a burning candle can be just too much of a temptation for a kitty to resist.

And don’t forget to put off the flame once you’re finished playing with hot wax and want to start fucking.

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Love got shrink wrapped – a new artistic project

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BDSM lovers are into restraints, of various types. Submitting to your Dom, Master, or Daddy (or a female equivalent) is one of the things that thrills, surrendering your will to his or hers letting them do whatever they may please. Within what you both agreed beforehand. Here, this Japanese photographer, Haruhiko Kawaguchi, takes restraining into ‘new levels’. He wraps couples in plastic bags, sucks out the air from inside, then makes photos for about 10-20 seconds. Photos of the two people trapped in vacuum.

Kawaguchi says he has so far photographed about 80 couples, no major injuries have been noted, though some accidents have happened: ” It’s the men who panic the most. Four or five of them started struggling for air while in the bag, and one even peed in his pants, but none of them were able to break the plastic bag from the inside.”

Well, I must say I have mixed emotions. In those kinky relationships there’s trust between the two, you know more or less what the other person may do, moreover you know you can stop it anytime with a safe word. Apart from that you know his/her skills. Here you’re at a mercy of a third party who may make a mistake.

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BDSM Star Wars sex toys

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“Light saber is the weapon of a Jedi Knight. Not as clumsy or random as a blaster; an elegant weapon for a more civilized age. For over a thousand generations, the Jedi Knights were the guardians of peace and justice in the Old Republic. Before the dark times… before the Empire.” These were Obi Won’s words to Luke Skywalker before giving him his father’s weapon.

Well, light sabers and other gadgets from the Star Wars saga, may not be treated as gadgets that the movie maniacs bring to all types of convents anymore. What would you say to a dildo shaped light saber? A pity they haven’t made this one yet, but you can already buy a range of bdsm gadgets like whips and paddles that will keep your asses sore and red while you’re held still by more Star Wars themed restraints. Your eyes may be covered by stylish blindfolds with Star Wars logo. Check out Geek Kink for more details.

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Submission vs domination

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You’re probably now all aware of the fact that Hekate’s Passage features some lighter BDSM, lighter BDSM, I repeat. Eleyne, Yasmin and the other 2 girls are just beginning their journey into the world of kink and lust. Our heroines get cuffed, leashed, blindfolded but the question which remains is, who’s really in control? Their lovers, ’cause their hands are free and they can do anything to make the girls moan, squirm and beg for more? Or the heroines themselves, or I could say, our alter egos? Cause it’s us that do the writing and fantasizing… You, gentlemen, I mean Colin, Tony, Jim and Ted, won’t even sneeze without our permission…  Those of you who read may have wondered why there’s nothing about a “safe word” in the text, after all, BDSM practitioners had better have one… And even we did write about it here, in the very blog. Now you know why we skipped the safe word in the book. It’s us – naughty authors and our alter egos, who rule our lovers.

 

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